I am the only child in my family. This being said, I have no direct brothers and sisters, but I have 6 cousins, with 2 of them being of my age, and, coincidentally, my pretty good friends. We used to hang out together in the childhood and teenage years, and now of course the life has pulled us apart a little bit, but we're still pretty close.
I've been on a wedding of one of these 2 cousins on Saturday and Sunday, so he has joined the married man land.
Things are not going too well with my second cousin. My second cousin got hooked on drugs a few years ago and we have barely talked since then for obvious reasons. Most of his interests has became on where to get the money for more drugs, and that's about it. It's been a tough 2 or 3 years (for me, and probably not to him) -- feeling I need to help somehow yet realizing I cannot do anything. He has been on medical treatment a few times, and slipped back to drugs over and over again.
Yesterday he called me. It was a first time in 2 or 3 years when I heard him not being stoned. Moreover, he sounded pretty serious in his intention to get over it and begin a life all over again, doing small steps, one at a time. It sounds like he finally got the guts (or trying to) to actually pull it off -- and he apologized for the trouble he has been, and asked for a little support and praying for him from my part.
It was a first time in a long period I've been so sentimental (sp?) after his call. Being a close friend with a person for 20 years then losing him because of the drugs is very emotionally hard, and there were periods when I almost was thinking he'll die because of his addiction. That, and knowing there's not much I can do on my end, was sitting on me like a stone. Yesterday, for the first time in 4 years or so, I got the faith in him again. I hope he'll have the guts to get over himself, and I will try my best to help him in that.
Small, simple things like friendship, caring and hope is what moves us in this life. Sometimes we all need lessons like this (and hopefully not from your own family/friends) to realize that again. Work, money and career are good too, but they are nothing (nothing!) compared to these simple things.
Posted by slava at 03:28 AM
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Slava, good for you for having faith in him. I went through something similar with a cousin of mine, who is also now doing well.
Posted by: Ken on May 21, 2003 12:29 AMKeep comments on topic. If a comment is unrelated to this post, it may be removed or moderated.